When I first started reading this story, I found the story of Terri and Ed very interesting. While I thought it was bizarre at first that she considered what he did to her "love," I realized if that was all she knew then what else could we expect. I also began to wonder what must have happened to Ed to make him "love" somebody like that. What does it take to make a person think that showing love means being abusive or abused? Do they think if they aren't loved then they will be hugged and kissed?
Then Mel goes on to say how he loved his first wife and now he hates her guts. Was what he called love, in fact, true love? Can you fall out of love with a person?
In another part of the story the group discusses how young and new Laura and Nick's love is, and to wait until they get further along in their marriage.
In the end of the story Mel says if he weren't with Terri and if Nick wasn't his best friend then he would fall in love with Laura.
Are any of these portrayals love?
I don't think so, at least not true love. As a Christian I have come to learn that true love never fails, it doesn't judge, it doesn't lust, it isn't jealous or selfish. I am not sure if humans are capable of pure, true love. We think love is an emotion, but it is more than that: love is a commitment. We need to be careful with the words "I love you" because what we may mean when we say it is not necessarily how the other person will interpret it. As seen in this story, there are many opinions about love.
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Very profound, and completely true. I love how you brought in the Christian aspect into the mix. I didn't even think about it for that story, I only thought about my own opinions. Good going.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your perception about Terri and Ed because it is hard to say what was the reason Ed felt that this was the way to "love". True love does go beyond words into action. When the word love is said it is almost automatic to think of the world's connotaion on love and not the Godly aspect.
ReplyDeleteI really liked what you said about “We think love is an emotion, but it is more than that: love is a commitment.” This is so true. Relationships aren’t always a bed of roses. We are humans and are born with a sinful nature which guarantees that we are going to mess up. But the commitment aspect of love is a promise that a couple will stay together and that they are willing to help each other and work together in difficulties. Through this, the love that the couple shares is able to grow deeper and their bond becomes stronger.
ReplyDeletei think your comment like megan is really profound... love is commitment and thats where so many people fall out of line... we believe that its all about feelings and the highs of our emotions...when its gone we move on and find someoneelse to give us that cloud nine high...
ReplyDeleteHi Cassie, I've seen some crazy things about love also. I too do not believe that true love is abusive. I have met girls that feel that abuse is confirmation that the guy really loves me. I believe in the Agape love that the bible talks about. That is what I want from the man who says he loves me. It's kind of hard to relay the Agape love message to the guys. But it's not an option, it is a must for my life. God Bless Jane
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